The truth about life goals and how to be happy
Hey there,
Sometimes It feels like your choices are to either be a child
and live at home and have dreams or grow up and get on with just surviving,
work a job you hate to fund your life, but what are we if we spend most of our
times working a job we hate?
The older I get the more I realize, living doesn’t have to be one thing you do thing for the rest of your life.
It can be doing what makes you happy at this time period in your life, when that no longer makes you happy move on. Don’t continue to pursue something that no longer serves you. And I know what some of you are thinking, that it’s giving up or you need to climb the careers ladder, well you can and you could hate it…..or ….maybe … you could follow your dreams, and now don’t get me wrong I’m not saying have no job or money, the opposite actually, pursue what makes you happy in a healthy way, making money at the same time whether that is to fund your hobbies or as a stepping stone to something more or as a means to an end.
If you enjoy your current endeavour for: 2 years, 10 years or 60 years that’s fine. You may start something with intent for it to be a means to an end and end up loving it.
For example, when I was 16, I really and I mean REALLY wanted to do music, I wanted to perform and I loved it, so I did 3 courses in the meantime, its 6 years later and I’m about to graduate with BA Hons and I’ve had a great time and it’s been a blessing, I never set out to be famous however now that I’m not actively pursuing music I have heard comments like “have you given up on your music dream now” and I think …no… I’ve accomplished it. I will always love and need music and will continue to practise but my goals have shifted at this moment. Maybe they will return to music but for now I need to follow my heart and so do you!
I’ve learnt loads, more than music, I’ve learnt about psychology, feminism and much more, however now I have a new goal which is travel and photography. Do I still love music? Of course. Do I need to know what I’m going to do with the next 70-80 years of my life? No, of course not. Who does? Really none of us know what’s around the corner.
And Maybe in 3 years I’ll be done with travel and then ill want to do something else, I just don’t know, no one does, there is such a big concept of “you have to know what you are going to do for the rest of your life, now” and pressure from a older generation to pick a career, when really if you try out 100 jobs before finding what you enjoy that’s fine, you only get one life, please don’t waste it trying to please other people.
If in 5 years I have another goal that is fine and I will let myself follow that, because that is the best way to be and stay happy. Maybe your 16-year-old self didn’t have the same vision as you do now. Think for a second about a 16-year-old and a 36-year-old, are they going to have the same thought process? No. Are they going to have gone through the same things? No. It’s ok to change your mind.
Goals change, and that’s ok. Your allowed to change as a person,
you do and you will, live your dreams and they will change as you accomplish
them.
Lastly, everyone else’s path is not your path, RE-READ THAT, everyone else’s path is not your path ,some people want money or happiness or family or things like cars and houses, most likely you want a combination of these. That’s ok, but dont follow someone elses plan, its like following someone elses blueprints to build a table, when you are building a chair. If you want your life to look exactly like someone else’s then maybe you would follow the same path they did, however your life is just that, YOUR’S. Don’t waste it trying to be someone else.
Try everything and keep an open mind and a heart full of dreams.
You got this 🙂